Vanessa ([info]x_processed) wrote in [info]blackcigarette,
2009-02-27 12:27:00
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yours, mine, hers



Everyone has a First Love.
Some, lucky enough, never lose him or her.
And others, like me, do.


credit: [info]sandypandycandy 













Do you remember your first heartbreak?
Did you hold on because you knew letting go would be a big mistake?
 


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[info]moon_beam

February 27 2009, 05:09:23 UTC 3 years ago

this makes me so sad :\

[info]writemethesea

February 27 2009, 05:40:43 UTC 3 years ago

this.

but sad in a good way, I think. or in an it's-worth-being-sad-about way.

[info]z_a_z_z_i

3 years ago

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[info]beijing

February 27 2009, 05:11:09 UTC 3 years ago

I'm going through it currently. And I'm not letting go. We're trying. Not to be together again, not right now, but to stay in each others lives. He asked me to never forgive him. It's not that easy.

Never give up on something that you can't go a day without thinking about.
-- Author Unknown

[info]x_processed

February 27 2009, 12:22:36 UTC 3 years ago

I love that quote. Thank you for sharing.
I'll never give up. But maybe, timing is just everything. I hope things work out the way you hope it will :)

[info]itsa_danceoff

February 27 2009, 05:13:27 UTC 3 years ago

that first picture, i LOVE that quote! it's by an artist named brian andreas, who does 'story people'. you have to check it out if you haven't already! all of his stuff is equally as moving, i have a few of his pieces and books.
www.storypeople.com

anyways, back to the point of this entry, i'm currently still with my first love- my highschool sweetheart. he was also my first heartbreak, but i did hold on, and even though we went through hell, we got back together and are going strong now, years after.

[info]x_processed

February 27 2009, 12:27:25 UTC 3 years ago

Thanks for sharing! I didn't know he has books and such. I'm probably going to get myself a copy or two.

Its love, like yours, that keeps me holding on. I hope I would be as lucky.

[info]bouche_cousue

February 27 2009, 05:15:05 UTC 3 years ago

I have yet to experience either love or heartbreak. I hope that soon my time will come.

[info]x_processed

February 27 2009, 12:29:11 UTC 3 years ago

It will. I believe that good things come for people who wait :)

[info]ninjaheather

February 27 2009, 05:15:43 UTC 3 years ago

i broke it off with my first love because i knew i couldn't marry him. this was 4-5 years ago. he's married to someone else now, and i'm currently with someone. i still miss him and think about him often.

[info]moon_beam

February 27 2009, 05:43:06 UTC 3 years ago

:\ *hug*

[info]ninjaheather

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[info]tryakiwi

February 27 2009, 05:16:24 UTC 3 years ago

im waiting for my love to call me right now. and i know he won't till the morning and he will have some lame excuse and he won't even say he is sorry. and then itll happen all over again.

[info]mylittlerants

February 27 2009, 20:23:25 UTC 3 years ago

girl, don't wait another morning for that bullshit.

everyday should be a new day, so make it one.

[info]tryakiwi

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[info]tryakiwi

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[info]sophie_ann

February 27 2009, 05:22:25 UTC 3 years ago

i experienced love for the first time recently, and it was one of the most unexpected and beautiful things to ever happen to me. we both know that it's not realistic for us to be together, so it's over now. even so, i feel lucky. my heart aches, but it never broke.

[info]paperbuildings

February 27 2009, 05:25:45 UTC 3 years ago


I have never been in love, but I'm experiencing the hardships that go with falling for the best friend. He doesn't want it to ruin our bond as best friends, because really, best friends can't even begin to describe the relationship we have. Though I do appreciate him looking out for the better of that, I still am so confused as to why someone wouldn't want to be with their best friend if something is undeniably there. And if something happened and it didn't work out between us, I mean, come on - we're not 14 years old; we could get past it. If that's what we wanted.

Oh well, I can't be too selfish - I'd rather be best friends than nothing at all.

[info]honeydirt

February 27 2009, 10:35:19 UTC 3 years ago

i'm going through the same thing.

[info]sarahhnade

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[info]stormydown

February 27 2009, 05:28:25 UTC 3 years ago

i don't know how to say any of this without sounding pretentious, but i'll try.

i was pretty mature when i was younger, and i fell in love (at first sight -- how cheesy is that?) when i was 14, with a much older man. love at first sight: i'd never experienced it before and i've never experienced it since. i literally felt my heart stop and i just knew, before we'd even exchanged a word, before he'd ever even looked at me.

anyway, things didn't go well, of course, and my heart completely broke. i'm 20 now and i'm still as much in love with him as i ever was. i've never met anyone like him. he didn't define me, but loving him was a big factor in how i see things and how i live my life. he made me better.

[info]killahbmeg

February 27 2009, 11:10:35 UTC 3 years ago

*hugs*
The same happened with me, I was 15 and I fell in love with a 28 year old. We broke up, my heart was broken for a long time, but trust me it'll get better when you find that one person that can, well, not replace them, but be the one whose even better for you :)

[info]darlin_sane

February 27 2009, 05:31:36 UTC 3 years ago

My first love left me emotionally cripped for years after it ended for good. There is still a huge whole in my heart that will never be filled. No one will ever be him.
Even though I know I've met my true soulmate now (as lame as that term is), I still get uncomfortable thinking of B and choked up/red-faced, and so I force myself not to think of him.


Some days I wonder if he ever truly knows what he was to me.
And I wonder if I was anything to him like what he was to my heart.

Nothing will ever compare to the things we went through for three years together. Those three years were and are... utterly indescribable.

[info]shellasaurusrex

February 27 2009, 05:47:19 UTC 3 years ago

i feel like i just met myself. i could have written everything you wrote here.

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[info]welcome_ghosts

February 27 2009, 05:37:40 UTC 3 years ago

I thought I loved someone years ago, but what we had could not be called love. We ended it and at the time I was heartbroken, but it was for the best. Because of that, I was able to find my true love. He is amazing.

[info]eggsandtoast

February 27 2009, 06:34:11 UTC 3 years ago

I asked this of someone else as well, but ... I never understand how people come to later decide that what they felt (or thought they felt) as love, was not actually love at all. Why can't what you had be called love?

I hope this doesn't come across as rude! I am just curious.

[info]ricewasthrown

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[info]thehowlingsea

February 27 2009, 05:39:36 UTC 3 years ago

I love this post. I have a mild obsession with pictures/things concerning people being in love and losing that love.

I'm with my first actual love right now. It's going very well at the moment, and it has been going well for the past two years. I don't think I'd like to ever be with anyone else. I know that sounds very naive, but he treats me nicely and he's different than any other boy I've met. He makes me feel good about myself and he makes me want to be a better person.

I'm worried about when we finish our undergraduate studies, however. We have always been in a long distance relationship (it's difficult, but very gratifying when we can see each other) and I would like to be with him once we do graduate (or at least closer; neither of us have cars which makes travel sparse and expensive). I guess I just have an inner conflict over doing what I want to do with my life and being with him. I've decided not to worry about it and when it comes to that point, then I'll make my decision.

[info]x_processed

February 27 2009, 12:56:07 UTC 3 years ago

Hold on, no matter the distance.

[info]golightly_1983

February 27 2009, 05:42:14 UTC 3 years ago

This is so sweet ♥ The 2nd one up from the bottom is so precious.I'm married so i guess i have found my love.But I do remb.my 1st bf and how he made me feel.that i will never forget!

[info]badroots

February 27 2009, 05:42:46 UTC 3 years ago

One fellow told me he loved me, and I just think that I didn't want to take his love, however, after he lost his feelings towards me I gained feelings towards him. So, after a very drunken week, I told him how I felt, and still, no can do.

I don't know if I'm in love with him anymore, but I do still think of him every day, weather I see something that reminds me of him, or a song that he brought to me. It's sad and I miss him.

[info]shellasaurusrex

February 27 2009, 05:45:16 UTC 3 years ago

i lost my love. it's been 2 years and i have not been able to forget him yet. no one quite stacks up to the high standards he set.

[info]x_processed

February 27 2009, 12:57:26 UTC 3 years ago

My fear is not finding anyone else that matches up to the standards that have already been set. It scares me.

[info]dandazzled

3 years ago

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[info]brieslices

February 27 2009, 05:46:07 UTC 3 years ago

I think your first heartbreak might not necessarily be the right guy or true love, what have you. I remember my frist heartbreak and it was awful, I was fourteen and I had never been in love before and it took me years to get over it. I compared everyone to him in high school.

However, as I got older, I realized that it wasn't real love. Now I am with the man I could never have dreamed to be this good, and as silly as it sounds, I want to spend the rest of my life with him. It's beautiful and he's made me forget any harships and hurts I've felt throughout my life. He's my yellow bird, he makes me want to be a better person. I'd be so lost without him.

[info]eggsandtoast

February 27 2009, 06:31:08 UTC 3 years ago

I never understand how people come to later decide that what they felt as love, was not actually love at all. Could you explain this to me? Or what you mean by it not being real love?

I hope this doesn't come across as rude! I am just curious.

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[info]theladyassassin

February 27 2009, 05:51:42 UTC 3 years ago

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I miss him. We never had a huge falling out so it hurts that much more, just to know that, under different circumstances, we could be together

[info]theladyassassin

February 27 2009, 05:52:25 UTC 3 years ago

He's so handsome:
Photobucket

i always wondered why, out of all the people, he chose me

[info]eyes_to_love

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[info]x_processed

February 27 2009, 13:04:54 UTC 3 years ago

Good things come for those who wait. It will come soon. Hang in there :)

[info]heartheflowers

3 years ago

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[info]couturelaced

February 27 2009, 06:00:11 UTC 3 years ago

i miss you, every second that goes by, i'm thinking of you, hoping your doing better, hoping you aren't breaking anymore hearts then mine. i could never forgive you, but my heart doesn't want to go on.


just writing that, makes me teary. thanks for this post (:

[info]xhaute_mullette

February 27 2009, 06:27:19 UTC 3 years ago

whoa, cute couple.

..inappropriate comment lol
uhm. you're pretty!

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[info]riffrandell

February 27 2009, 06:01:18 UTC 3 years ago

I'm so in love with love, but really unlucky. If only it loved me back.

[info]too_evonish

February 27 2009, 06:01:25 UTC 3 years ago

The guy I love is right beside me right now, and read this together.

Just that he doesn't know I'm commenting because he's so obsessed with his game.

[info]eyes_to_love

February 27 2009, 06:02:18 UTC 3 years ago

i lost him sunday. it hurts so much. :/
i waited forever, never settling for just anyone, and then i found him. we were just great together, you know? a couple of my friends said we were just one of those couples. but it was just too much and he broke my heart and now i feel just so stupid and insignificant about everything.

[info]x_processed

February 27 2009, 13:09:36 UTC 3 years ago

I went through what you are now, 6 months ago. Everyone was just as shocked/upset when he decided to break up with me. I guess thats how love is, it only takes one person to mess you up so badly. Take courage, things will get better. You'll see :)

[info]jessiemonsterrr

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[info]startica

February 27 2009, 06:07:19 UTC 3 years ago

i hate being in love..
it hurts so much that when you're trying to move on you often sometimes hold things back from the next person feeling that they will never care for you like you do.

[info]x_processed

February 27 2009, 13:11:44 UTC 3 years ago

"Have you ever been in love? Horrible isn't it? It makes you so vulnerable. It opens your chest and it opens up your heart and it means that someone can get inside you and mess you up. You build up all these defences, you build up a whole suit of armour, so that nothing can hurt you, then one stupid person, no different from any other stupid person, wanders into your stupid life. You give them a piece of you. They didn't ask for it. They did something dumb one day, like smile at you, and then your life isn't your own anymore. Love takes hostages. It gets inside you. It eats you out and leaves you crying in the darkness, so simple a phrase like 'maybe we should be just friends' turns into a glass splinter working its way into your heart. It hurts. Not just in the imagination. Not just in the mind. It's a soul-hurt, a real gets-inside-you-and-rips-you-apart pain. I hate love."
- Neil Gaiman

Your comment reminded me of this quote.

[info]xhaute_mullette

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[info]terriffany

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[info]thelastfelf

February 27 2009, 06:10:16 UTC 3 years ago

I have a boy. I love him so much that it makes me dizzy.

[info]the_bonemachine

February 28 2009, 16:00:56 UTC 3 years ago

oh same! isn't it spectacular? it feels like a drug.
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